Let your one-sided love go.
Imagine if someone fell in love with you, someone so different from you. They have different beliefs, different interests and different principles in dealing with almost everything.
As a person who knows what you want, you didn’t think about that someone the same way they do. You don’t like them back. With every encounter, you can clearly see the charm between you two cannot stretch long enough to encompass a life-long partnership.
So they try their best to prove they’re the person you want. The person you need. They find out what you like and imitate it. They try to win your trust, rather genuinely.
But here’s the thing. One day the effort will become too much for him/her. For you can’t expect someone to live most of their life out of their shell with you, while you’re totally and comfortably yourself, then expect them to be happy about it.
Is it fair that it was never the real fit? Is it okay that we choose lust, emotion and urges over full pictures. Both ends of the bargain could be missing out on something truly amazing.
The ocean of devotion that is called love.
For that person who changed could’ve been someone’s biggest dream and for you could’ve found a person who truly fulfills your own dream. No forced feelings.
Don’t get me wrong, oceans have waves. Effort in a relationship is necessary and emotions can grow. But you don’t solve a puzzle by changing its pieces.
If a person wants to change, it has to be for them. If it’s for you, for something as temporary as getting to the goal of being with you-it’s just isn’t fair to the both of you.
Think of that next time you feel like you’re trying to change a friend into a lover. Think about how your beautiful puzzle piece could make a much more beautiful picture and way more smoothly.
For as long as you aren’t fundamentally changing for yourself, genuinely and on the long-run, you are just fooling yourself.
And you are far too precious to deprive yourself of your own honesty and transparency.
Let your one-sided love go.