Falling in love with the wrong people.

Why do I keep falling for the wrong person? Something must be wrong with me!

Didn't we all go through this endless pattern! We meet someone, fall in love, then get hurt, and then we meet someone with similar traits, fall in love, then get hurt .. AGAIN !! and on and on we go..
It's okay, we all have been there, as humans we're creatures of habit. We tend to feel comfortable with routines and similar behaviors. In order to break those habits, we must understand why are we drawn to them in the first place. 

1.LONELINESS

We can not endure the idea of being on our own. Loneliness and lack of validation from other people can be a major element that forces you to get into a relationship you wouldn't normally seek.

2.SEEKING TRAITS WE THINK WE DON'T HAVE

We think we need another person to become a whole. That's why we get attracted to people who possess some traits we wish we could have for ourselves. So instead of trying to evolve as a person, you might believe you need your partner in order to evolve!

3.LOVE IS BLIND, LIKE, LITERALLY!

When we fall in love, we don't actually see things the way they are. We get all wrapped up in the sweet talk, affection, and physical appearance that we don't actually pay attention to what is happening in the relationship or how this person is actually treating us.

4. WE DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT WE WANT!

When was the last time you thought about your own needs and what you desire in the person you want to be with?! Do you have certain standards or don't you have any? 

People who find their partners and continue living in healthy relationships usually have a certain clear idea of what they're looking for, do you?

5. YOU THINK YOU'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH 

You might know exactly what you want in a partner but you think you're not good enough to deserve someone like that! You might even believe that this person you have in mind does not even exist! and so you feel like you need to lower your standards to find love and affection.

6. YOU HAVE MADE THIS PERSON YOUR WHOLE WORLD! 

We don't just fall in love with the wrong people, we worship them! we give them so much importance that we forget to take good care of ourselves! We ignore the differences and try to convince ourselves that we love everything they love to gain their affection and so we lose ourselves in the process.

In the end, we must value ourselves in order to feel valued. Self-validation is way more important than the validation you get from temporary people. Do not waste any more energy. It's time to take a stand and go after what you really want. Love is beautiful but if it doesn't come with peace of mind in the form of a steady healthy relationship, then it ain't worth it.